Frequently Asked Questions

RatherYou is a life choice compatibility platform that matches people by shared life direction — not just attraction. Using our Life Fork Engine, users answer hundreds of meaningful scenario-based decisions across career, money, family, lifestyle, conflict, and growth. The platform generates a Shared Direction Index for each match, showing deep alignment areas, healthy tension zones, and potential friction points.

Most dating apps optimize for chemistry and surface-level attraction through swiping. RatherYou is direction-first: we match based on life alignment across six core domains. There's no swiping, no gamified mechanics, and no dopamine manipulation. Instead, you get structured compatibility insight through the Life Fork Engine, Marriage Mode, the Reality Lab, and your Self-Discovery Dashboard.

Yes! RatherYou offers a free Discovery plan that includes 50 foundational life fork questions, a basic Life Direction Profile, and a Self-Discovery Dashboard preview. The Premium plan ($19/month) unlocks 200+ questions, full matching, and Reality Lab simulations. The Couple plan ($29/month) adds Marriage Mode and couple alignment tools.

The Life Fork Engine is RatherYou's core compatibility system. It presents hundreds of meaningful, scenario-based decisions across six life domains — career, money, family, lifestyle, conflict style, and growth identity. Your responses build a comprehensive Life Direction Profile that captures your trajectory across all major life areas.

Marriage Projection Mode is an advanced compatibility layer for couples serious about long-term commitment. It explores financial transparency, crisis response behavior, relocation willingness, emotional labor distribution, health and caregiving expectations, career sacrifice philosophy, and long-term vision planning.

The Reality Lab introduces structured life simulations to test compatibility under pressure. Scenarios include sudden job loss, moving countries, unexpected inheritance, health crises, parenting disagreements, and financial downturns. The system analyzes response patterns to reveal dynamic compatibility.

Absolutely. The Self-Discovery Dashboard is valuable even without matching. You gain a personal life value map, directional clarity profile, growth tension indicators, risk tolerance analysis, and emotional processing style summary. Many users complete it as a personal development exercise.

Yes. We never sell your personal data to advertisers. Your life fork responses are encrypted and treated with the highest confidentiality. We use industry-standard security measures. You can export or delete your data at any time. Read our full Privacy Policy for details.

The Shared Direction Index is our compatibility output. Instead of a vague percentage, it generates: a Shared Direction Score (overall alignment), Negotiation Zone Map (areas for dialogue), High-Risk Divergence Areas (friction warnings), and Long-Term Trajectory Alignment (where you're both heading).

You can cancel your subscription at any time through your account settings. Premium features remain active until the end of your billing period. Refunds are available within 14 days of purchase if premium features haven't been used. Contact hello@ratheryou.com for assistance.